Wedding Etiquette for Guests

I received a wedding etiquette lesson thanks to Columbus event designer, Dalay Ket. It has been so helpful because almost all my friends are engaged now! And now that I am a bridesmaid for Sophia, I feel like I need to be equipped on what and what not to do when it comes to all things weddings.

Here are some things I learned:

  • Photos: Don’t share any photos of the engagement or wedding until the bride and groom have done so. Some couples are now asking guests not to take photos or videos, as it may ruin a photo opportunity for the hired professionals, such as Queenstown Heli Wedding. The wedding photographers Northern VA will make the perfect photos for the couple so they can have a beautiful memory. Also, no flash if you use your camera phone!
  • Send your RSVP in a timely fashion.
  • Many couples are working with a tight budget. Don’t bring a guest or ask to bring one if you didn’t get a plus one. Also, if you have kids, clarify if they can come.
  • Gifts: not required for engagement or bachelorette party, but do bring one for the bridal shower. If you get a gift for the bridal shower, you do not need to bring a gift to the wedding. A card is a nice gesture if you don’t want to arrive empty handed.
  • It is customary to give money for Asian weddings. Who doesn’t like cash?! The cash amount is generally correlated with how many guests are coming per family, or how close you are to the bride/groom.
  • Bring cash to the wedding in case you need to tip the bartenders or for valet parking.
  • Never wear white to the wedding. Don’t try to steal the bride’s thunder! You can wear a beautiful purple homecoming dress instead.
  • Even if it’s open bar, it’s not an open invitation to be belligerently drunk… just don’t be that person.
  • Bring extra comfortable shoes for dancing so you can boogie the night away!

I definitely feel ready for wedding season with just these few facts under my belt!


  • Nancy says:

    That’s one of my pet peeves! RSVPing more than the number of people written on the invitation. I hate it when you write 2 on the invite and they write like 4 people will be attending.

  • Melody says:

    Yes, I agree with the etiquette…. especially when someone wasn’t invited and they wrote themselves as +1 under their parents.

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