It has come to my attention through articles (like this one) on Thought Catalog, Elite Daily, and conversations with my friends, that I am now in the times where “modern dating” is the new thing. As if the dating world is not already complicated and confusing enough, now there are certain new actions or rules… that I have to interpret. So let’s discuss some deets about modern day dating, shall we?
Modern dating is…
Playing games: apparently it’s even more important to act like you don’t care (ex: purposefully waiting hours or even days before replying texts or returning phone calls) so you can have the “power”. No wonder I am single… I actually show people I am interested in them and that sure must be confusing :p
“Hanging out/talking”: these terms can be problematic. This is a sly way for people to not take what’s going on seriously. Hey, if both parties are fine with undefined statuses, then more power to ya. However, if you know what you want, how long can you go along with these terms before you have the “So….what are we?” talk. If you want to be dating, call your meet up dates- a very simple action that can clarify any confusion. Men, take the lead on this, ok? Be brave, I know you can do it!
Keeping your options open: there seems to be an importance on dating around and talking to multiple people to see what’s out there. I feel like this is a huge part of online dating – and a main reason why I have not tried it. When I like someone it is him and only him. If it doesn’t work out then I can clear my head and move on. I can’t juggle with objects and I certainly don’t want to juggle people.
Misinterpreting interest: making an effort to talk to someone or see someone you like now is termed as being “thirsty” or needy. Seriously? I understand what thirsty and needy mean, but these terms are thrown around to situations that don’t fit the definition.
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again but it seems like relationships nowadays aren’t as valued. Maybe that’s why so many of them are unsuccessful?
So will I survive modern dating? Probably – but only on my own terms. I guess I will have to stick to my old school ways. The way I see it, great things are hard to come by, so I’ll keep being sincere and the person who is right for me will appreciate and reciprocate.
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